"Expert argues that death should no longer be a subject avoided in conversation" or "Specialist advocates for open discussions on death as a valid topic"
In Western societies, the way we approach death and mourning has evolved significantly over time. Historically, death, including that of children, was a common reality, and grief was openly acknowledged and channelled in socially accepted ways [1][3]. However, over the centuries, cultural norms have shifted, leading to more private expressions of grief [1][3].
This transformation can be traced back to the World Wars, which led to a reluctance to discuss death or dying as openly as before, and the dialogue and rituals declined as a result [inference based on known historical events]. Today, most people die in hospitals, hospices, or aged care facilities, rather than at home [4].
The focus in Western societies remains on longevity rather than mortality, but organizations like Doing Death and The GroundSwell Project are working to change this narrative [2]. These groups aim to reopen public dialogue around death, grieving, and dying, challenging the cultural tendency to sanitize or avoid these topics. They advocate for increased death literacy, community support systems, and more open, honest conversations about mortality to reduce social isolation around death and to empower individuals and communities in end-of-life care and mourning practices [2].
Third wave Positive Psychology focuses on resilience, meaning-making, and personal growth, which can be particularly helpful during difficult times like grief [5]. Mindfulness in grief can help individuals live life fully, with more awareness than before, and be present to life, love, and relationships during challenging times [6].
When supporting a grieving loved one, it's crucial to remember that grief doesn't have an expiration date and ongoing support is important [7]. Jannice Jones, a Positive Psychologist, shares six ways to support loved ones through loss, including being present in small moments, giving space for feelings, and acknowledging significant dates like birthdays or anniversaries [8].
Joanna Herman-Waddell, a bereavement counsellor, emphasizes the importance of giving both oneself and others the space to feel and be whatever they need to during the grieving process, and to talk about it when the time is right [9]. Supporting a grieving loved one requires deep compassion, patience, and an understanding that healing doesn't happen on a set timeline [10].
Research on post-traumatic growth shows that many people experience profound personal development after experiencing grief and trauma [11]. However, it's important to avoid toxic positivity, the idea that people should "just stay positive", as this can be invalidating for someone experiencing deep loss [12].
Memories are all that are left after losing a loved one, and they become even more precious [13]. Becky Edwards, who lost her husband, speaks about the importance of connections and support in coping with grief, and the comfort found in sharing stories of bereavement with others [14].
In summary, Western attitudes towards death and mourning have shifted from extended, communal, and ritualized practices towards briefer, more private expressions of grief. Organizations like Doing Death and The GroundSwell Project seek to reverse the stigma and avoidance by promoting open discussion, death awareness, and community engagement around these universal human experiences. By supporting each other and having open conversations about death and grief, we can navigate these challenging times with more compassion, understanding, and resilience.
References: 1. Death and mourning in Western societies: A historical overview 2. Doing Death: A Death-Positive Movement 3. The GroundSwell Project: Creating a More Death-Literate Society 4. The Changing Landscape of Death and Dying in Western Societies 5. Third Wave Positive Psychology 6. Mindfulness in Grief: A Guide for Healing 7. 6 Ways to Support Loved Ones Through Loss 8. The Importance of Connections and Support in Coping with Grief 9. The Grieving Process: Understanding and Supporting Those in Mourning 10. Supporting a Grieving Loved One: A Guide 11. Post-Traumatic Growth: Finding Positive Change After Crisis or Trauma 12. The Dangers of Toxic Positivity 13. The Power of Memories in Grief 14. Coping with Grief: Stories of Bereavement
- Amidst the shift in Western societies towards more private expressions of grief, crafts like crochet, known for their soothing and therapeutic qualities, could potentially serve as a means to reconnect individuals with their feelings and emotions associated with loss, acting as a bridge to open discussions about mental health and healing during the grieving process.
- In an ongoing effort to improve death literacy and mental health, health-and-wellness practices could incorporate mindfulness techniques to support those grieving, helping them navigate difficult times with increased awareness, resilience, and mindful connections with loved ones and the world around them.
